The Presentation of “The Anniversary Dance”
Following The First Dance or The Father/Daughter Dance.
You invite every couple that has been married for more then one year to please come out on to the dance floor. You may also say “we will wait so please take your time and come on down”. Some of your guests may respond slowly so be patient. You will be surprised at how many guests will participate.
A great song to use is “That Old Feeling” by Rod Stewart, track #5 on “The Great American Songbook” Album. There are so many differant songs you can use. There may be one that has a special meaning to you and your family. Make it one to remember.
Once your dance floor is full you tell your guests “you are to dance and when I stop the music I will instruct you on what to do”. You will then start the music and play about 20 seconds and stop it. At that point you will say “Everyone who has been married for less then 5 years please leave the dance floor”. You once again start the music and say “please dance”. This time only play 15 seconds. Then ask that every couple that has been married for less then 10 years to please leave the dance floor. You will repeat this for every 5 years. (note: keep a piece of paper beside you and mark off each year as you go so you don’t loose track)
When you dismiss the couples of 15 years or less. After they have left the dance floor you say: “The couples remaining represent True Love”. Repeat this with the following.
15 years – True Love
20 years – Caring
25 years – Acceptance
30 years – Patience
35 years – Understanding
40 years – Tolerance
45 years – Endurance
50 years – Devotion
55 + years – Everlasting Love
Once you’ve reveled the longest married couple you step out on to the dance floor and introduce them and say “ this couple represents the love and devotion that we all strive for” “Would everyone please join us on the dance floor for this celebration” Then finish the song “That Old Feeling” followed up by Unchained Melody or Can’t Help Falling In Love. This presentation will be one of the highlights of the reception.
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The parent with whom you have been living the longest should issue the invitation. The other parent is not mentioned. However, if both parents agree, the invitations may be in both names.
Introducing future in-laws to each other
Protocol dictates that the first introduction should be to the parent with whom you have been living, followed a week or so later by a visit with your other parent.
Seating at the ceremony
The bride’s mother and her immediate family (parents, husband and children) are seated in the first row. The second row is left empty. The bride’s father, after walking the bride down the aisle, sits with his present wife and parents in the third row. The groom’s family follows a similar seating arrangement.
Giving the bride away
Unless you are personally estranged from your father, it is he who walks you down the aisle and gives you away.
The receiving line
Traditionally, the bride’s mother stands in the receiving line and her father mingles with the guests. However, if you want both parents in the line, separate your divorced parents with the stepparents or grandparents to eliminate confusion among the guests. If you are serving a sit-down dinner, assign separate tables for each of your parents and their spouses.
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