Although a wedding funded by a combination of people allows you to have a nicer celebration, you may find yourself with too many people trying to run the show. There are three important rules to remember about wedding planning and financial contributions.
Paying all, or even the largest portion of the expenses does not automatically
give that person total control of everything that happens that day. The things that you and your bride prefer take precedence. The bride’s family are the traditional hosts of the wedding celebration, no matter how much they contribute financially. That position of honor should not be denied them, and their input should be valued.
No one should be expected to give more than they can afford. If the bride’s parents can’t pay for the wedding you want to have, then either pay for it yourselves or change your plans. The whole money issue should be, handled with sensitivity; the financially challenged should not be ignored and given no input.
You owe gratitude to anyone who contributes to the wedding, as well as the courtesy of listening to their ideas. You don’t have to act on them if you don’t wish to, but if you accept their financial assistance, be sure that’s clearly understood . Don’t offer the impression that you’ll be doing what they suggested then surprise them with something else. If you disagree, explain your reasons, and make sure they can accept your decisions. Take a firm stand on what’s important, although it wouldn’t hurt to compromise on minor points.
For more assistance in planning your budget, get a copy of the Wedding Guide. There you will find Wedding Budget in both English and Spanish. By putting your figures into the budget guidelines, you’ll know what to spend where.
You rely on family and friends to assist you on your wedding day, but when it comes to photography, this is no time for an amateur…It takes a good professional to preserve on film or tape for a lifetime the day you have planned so carefully.
Do your research. Ask friends for recommendations.
If the studio you select has more than one , make sure you know which one will be working with you. Forming a comfortable working relationship with your photographer is important. This person is going to spend a lot of time with the two of you on a very special day of your life.
A good professional will carefully guide you through the many decisions you must make, after which, you should have a clear understanding of what to expect. This is no time to be shy; ask lots of questions:
Should the photos be posed? How many? How many candid shots? Should the formal photos of the wedding party be taken before or after the ceremony? Exactly how many photos, negatives and proofs are you buying? What are the sizes? Are albums and folders included in the price? How long can you continue to order photos? When will the photographer leave the receptions? Are you to provide them with a meal?
Once you have worked our all the details on preserving your special day, go one step further – get everything in writing. Make certain your contract includes a payment schedule and penalties, if any, for a date change or cancellation. Then relax, smile and have fun, you are in the hands of a professional.