Although a wedding funded by a combination of people allows you to have a nicer celebration, you may find yourself with too many people trying to run the show. There are three important rules to remember about wedding planning and financial contributions…
Fewer cooks, calmer kitchen
Paying all, or even the largest portion of the expenses does not automatically give that person total control of everything that happens that day. The things that you and your partner prefer take precedence.
Consideration is an art
No one should be expected to give more than they can afford. If the bride’s parents can’t pay for the wedding you want to have, then either pay for it yourselves or change your plans. The whole money issue should be, handled with sensitivity; the financially challenged should not be ignored and given no input.
You owe gratitude to anyone who contributes to the wedding, as well as the courtesy of listening to their ideas. You don’t have to act on them, but if you accept their financial assistance, be sure that’s clearly understood . Don’t offer the impression that you’ll be doing what they suggested then surprise them with something else. If you disagree, explain your reasons, and make sure they can accept your decisions. Take a firm stand on what’s important and be willing to compromise on minor points.